Mit tiefer Dankbarkeit! (With deep gratitude!)

You are doing your best. Pushing hard and struggling- effort, time and even monetarily wasted! It can be an easy job but tedious or it can be hard and challenging. Whatsoever… spend every slice of you to get things done most likely unentertaining.

Good for those who get an hour of praise/approval/applause. Great are those who can enjoy and sailed through this mental torturing. But let us face the reality, not all shares the same thought and outcome.

No, I’m not saying anyone is an attention seeker but what I’m pointing to …a majestic word in English language, ‘APPRECIATE’ (ə prēs̸hē āt′).  It comes in many meanings but here I’m looking specific at ‘to recognize and be grateful for; be thankful for, to recognize with gratitude, to value or admire highly [Merriam-Webster].’

I don’t intend to make this an English class other than make clear the word. I just feel that people should not take things for granted. Is it that hard to show some sense of appreciation?

I quote Barbara Walters<always my fav.>, ‘To feel valued, to know, even if only once in a while, that you can do a job well is an absolutely marvelous feeling.’ Isn’t it inspiring? Appreciation surely is always a wonderful thing because you got to share a portion of the excellent effort.  What do you think about it?

But, does it mean if only you did a great job then you are worthy to be grateful? Mostly, it comes to the quality of effort. That’s for certain, an assessment process embedded in any system at anywhere. However, what worth for those who does average or even let down? Are we going to leave them?  I personally hold the principle of ‘you sow what you ripe’.  Not going to sympathies people who dig his own grave. However somewhere out there, I believe someone still deserved to be given a chance. I leave you to decide who’s worthwhile. Isn’t that- even a giant will fall. No one is perfect. Nemo sine vitio est. Indeed, a hard balancing-exercise if you ask me. Just that, any person will change (even if temporarily) with constant or unexpected encouragement. Showing of gratitude towards other, appreciate them or a word of encouragement –well-chosen, well-timed, with pinch of sincerity, you’ll start a spark. It’s free but an extreme expression which can worth a fortune!

“Feeling appreciated is one of the most important needs that people have. When you share with someone your appreciation and gratitude, they will not forget you. Appreciation will return to you many times.” –Steve Brunkhorst

“Flatter me, and I may not believe you. Criticize me, and I may not like you. Ignore me, and I may not forgive you. Encourage me, and I may not forget you.”-William Arthur

Psychologist and researcher, Dr Sonja Lyubomirsky studies reported in Positive Psychology Studies On Happiness describes her research findings on gratitude and optimism. According to Dr Lyubomirsky, those using gratitude and those using optimism showed increased happiness as measured … Motivation is a critical factor in successfully improving happiness with either gratitude or optimism. A motivated person can become happier by practicing simple gratitude, optimism, and kindness activities. However, there’s a mixture reflection on cultural difference on the acceptability of optimism.

We may have abundant of quotes, words of teaching, finding…etc nonetheless, how many realized it in our daily living. Now, i’m thinking ‘who should i direct to’ the above subject matter. Employer? Boss? Parents? or myself? Everyone! I think everyone is the FAIR direction.

Probably we should learn to unleash our gratitude muscles for the growth and development of people around us. After all, life should be inspiring. We may walk in different way of life yet we are same in one common ground of pursuing happiness in life.

Nemo dat quod non habet. I cannot give what I do not have . Now let me take my first step. “Thank you for spending your time reading this. Any feedback is appreciated. XD”

For more reading:

How to express gratitude

The Naked Soul, The impact of gratitude

Join the journey of awareness and understanding of your conscience… The Naked Soul will shift your perception to be grateful in different way. “…Having a gratitude attitude is key to finding peace on our journey. Being thankful does not mean that you cannot desire more, being thankful simply means that you are grateful for the abundance that you have regardless of the level of abundance in societal terms…When we have gratitude we find peace and freedom in our being…”

Alice: “Time can be funny.”

O Frabjus day! Let us dance Futterwacken vigoriously!


Illusive Monologue

Look deep into her eyes, trying to see beyond her. Human eyes always a symbol of window to a person. What is real in her world? I’ll never forget what she says.

“I’m not materialistic as you think but that’s how the society shaped me. Surrounding circumstances made who I am today. People come to me talk less but to fulfill their lustful desire. I don’t understand why you want to ask me this. Alright, i won’t talk much of my background but roughly you can figure it out sooner or later. I have to sustain my living by working myself in place like this. But please do not sympathies me. Even I’m living in a worst condition I know what’s important to me. Outsider may trash me but I know what I’m doing. You come here and pay for your service but if you think money can buy me perhaps you should leave now and find others…money is great, but it’s not everything…I am desperate once but no longer the same. No one really can handle money well. It’s sometimes hard to differentiate between what you need or what you want. People worshipping money but currently i am dragging money at my knee. It’s such a superior feelings. I’m self-centre but that how I am. That’s me and it will never change, at least for now. I have gone through various life experiences, layers of society, so there’s no point trying to outsmart me. Let me show you something. You see my nail, it’s broken. I just slapped a guy right on his face before I’m seeing you. I am really mad. But you see, the point is I’m always had issue with boss and client. They simply violated me. In this country I may look illegal but in some place my right protected. I’m free from obligation to pleasure every male I met. I make my own choice. You see, without financial means thing is always slow. Maybe with some wealth you can take me out and gradually care for me in a decent way and love ‘might’ grow from there. Isn’t that money is one of the factor in a bad relationship? That’s how it going to be.”


The DawnThere was a saying that everyday is a new beginning. You start afresh to move on in your life. Yet it is undeniable that no one can go back and start a new beginning. Time is progressive and wait for no one. But things can be simple because anyone can start today. Just treat it that way. Think about it…all great deeds and great thoughts have a ridiculous beginning. As an Irish proverbs says, “making the beginning is one third of the work.” If you never move an inch you will definitely stuck. Take courage to make a baby step. It’s small but at some point you will walk and run. This reminds me of the words by Neil Armstrong, ‘That’s a small step for a man, one giant leap for mankind.’  ‘Nothing great will ever be achieved without a great men, but men are great only if they are determined to be so.’ –Charles De Gaulles. Indeed, a resolute determination is one of the truest wisdom.